“If I Let Go of Perfectionism I Won’t Be as Good as I Am Now.”
Perfectionism can be an adaptation to a deficit of mirroring. Growing up with an insecure, possibly narcissistic parent, you might have lost your sense of self because you were compelled to serve as a mirror for your parent’s hungry ego.
Pavel G Somov • Present Perfect: A Mindfulness Approach to Letting Go of Perfectionism and the Need for Control
Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it often sets you on the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis. “Life paralysis” refers to all of the opportunities we miss because w
... See moreBrené Brown • Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience
Let’s say you have perfectionist tendencies—meaning that your assessment of quality may exceed others’—you’re working on a project and you’re approaching a deadline to submit a draft for feedback. The idea of submitting something below your standards feels wrong, so you grind late into the night until it feels right to share it. However, if your se... See more
Michael Ashcroft • Achieve Your Goals with Less Grinding
Replace “I must be perfect” with “I can be perfectly human.”