Typically, when asked why we are marrying someone, we feel pressured to respond by listing the ways they are lovely to be with. But a bigger, fairer explanation of why we’re with them, and why they might be a good spouse for us, involves exploring three questions: What might I learn from them? In what ways has my past constrained my choice of partn

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The main reason most of the above types end up in unhappy relationships is that they’re consumed by a motivating force that doesn’t take into account the reality of what a life partnership is and what makes it a happy thing.

And when you choose a life partner, you’re choosing a lot of things, including your parenting partner and someone who will deeply influence your children, your eating companion for about 20,000 meals, your travel companion for about 100 vacations, your primary leisure time and retirement friend, your career therapist, and someone whose day you’ll h... See more