How to Overcome Your Childhood

For example, you grieve how your parents refused to listen to you in childhood. Now in adult life, you notice that you still hide your feelings from most people. This secretiveness may be your lifelong over-reaction to an original injunction from parents who were afraid to know you. Now you are afraid to let others know you.

Usually, the child sets out on a journey to earn love from others. They become enormously eager to please and cannot say no. They are frequent targets of abuse by others because they’re so desperate for approval and have no one to report abuse to.

Growing up in my co-dependent family, I never felt approved of, no matter how hard I worked or what my accomplishments were. As a result, I found little satisfaction in anything I did. Now in adult life, despite my success, I often experience that same free-floating dissatisfaction.