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How to Know What You Really Want | Psyche Guides
This is why most of us spend our lives on a never-satisfied search for the next object of desire. There is always another model somewhere making us wonder if what they want, we should be what we want, too.
Luke Burgis • What People Are Really Doing When They Play Hard to Get
TO GET TO the root of why ambition and goal-setting don’t quite deliver the happiness they promise, we need to look a little more deeply at how we tend to desire. ‘Get what you want’ remains a mantra of modern living, as if we each had the birthright to accumulate whatever we think will make us happy.
Derren Brown • Happy: Why More or Less Everything is Absolutely Fine
If you wanted to generalize a bit, you could say there are six layers of desire: Material pleasure. Having nice food, a nice car, a nice house. Ego pleasure. Becoming well-known or rich and successful. Winning victories and recognition. Intellectual pleasure. Learning about things. Understanding the world around us. Generativity. The pleasure we ge
... See moreDavid Brooks • The Second Mountain: The Quest for a Moral Life
If the French critic René Girard was still above ground, he’d explain to the confused anthropologist that among our species, the intensity of competition tells you very little about underlying value. Instead, we borrow our desires from others: a toddler will try to seize a toy which held no interest to him until his playmate wanted it—and we never
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