How to Find Freedom Under Pressure
But in all circumstances—adversity or advantage—we really have just one thing we need to do: focus on what is in our control as opposed to what is not. Right now we might be laid low with struggles, whereas just a few years ago we might have lived high on the hog, and in just a few days we might be doing so well that success is actually a burden. O
... See moreStephen Hanselman • The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living
Aren’t we then quite foolish to maintain the tension? Because with this tense/no control situation, we have two problems: 1. tension/stress and 2. no control over life. In a no tension/no control situation, we would have only one problem: no control over life which can be experienced as frightening or freedom.
June Shiver • There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate
In order to avoid this discomfort — this tension — we’re creating a life or relationship or career based on what we think we can get. In order to minimize risk, we play it safe and only see the opportunities we believe are a sure thing. But think about it — how much of our lives can truly be a sure thing? Very, very little. Which means that when we
... See moreTripp Lanier • This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle
- Allow yourself to want freedom/imperturbability (your goal) more than you want approval, control, security, and separation. 2. Decide that you can release and be free/imperturbable (achieve your goal). 3. Allow yourself to perceive that all your feelings culminate in the four wants: the want of approval, the want to control, the want of security, a