First, focus on your words — not your inflection, not your feelings, not your ability to psychically send pictures mind-to-mind. Rigid-patterned people speak words — they don’t speak feelings or energy.

small.” This is the Fourth Mindfulness Training,1 and it offers a very good description of Right Speech (samyag vac). In our time, communication techniques have become very sophisticated. It takes no time at all to send news to the other side of the planet. But at the same time, communication between individuals has become very difficult. Fathers c

—Pace is often dictated by nerves, and nerves can also be controlled by the breath. If you’re gabbling, register that and take a moment. Feel the soles of your feet on the floor; let your brain drop into your stomach; breathe through your feet. Relax. Pick up your thought and start again.