How to Be an Adult: A Handbook on Psychological and Spiritual Integration

How do we accept? We feel. It’s quite simple. Let the thoughts do their dance. Let the narrative carry on. Let the labels label. None of that is a problem. As all of those experiences are happening, we can also give some of our attention to the bare sensation. If you’re feeling frustration or restlessness, you can ask, “Where is this felt right now

“Welcome the purification process. Attend to it. And let go of the conception process. What is needed will happen of itself when the time is right. There is nothing you can or should do about this. Truly give this over into the hands of God.

When we get lost in our stories, we lose touch with our actual experience. Leaning into the future, or rehashing the past, we leave the living experience of the immediate moment. Our trance deepens as we move through the day driven by “I have to do more to be okay” or “I am incomplete; I need more to be happy.” These “mantras” reinforce the trance-