HOW TO ARGUE AND WIN EVERY TIME
When we feel judged, we hide our love away, we put up our walls, we resist. If your theory of change depends in any way on the idea that telling someone what is wrong with them will lead to them changing what is wrong with them, you will be sorely ineffective.
Simeon Zahl • How Do People Actually Change? - Mockingbird
These arguments are action.
Stuart Wilde • Infinite Self: 33 Steps to Reclaiming Your Inner Power
In his classic book How to Win Friends and Influence People, Carnegie repeatedly urged readers to avoid direct confrontations. Instead he advised people to “begin in a friendly way,” to “smile,” to “be a good listener,” and to “never say ‘you’re wrong.’ ” The persuader’s goal should be to convey respect, warmth, and an openness to dialogue before s
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