Love “Don't change: Desire to change is the enemy of love. Don't change yourselves: Love yourselves as you are. Don't change others: Love all others as they are. Don't change the world: It is in God's hands and he knows. And if you do that change will occur, Marvellously in its own way and in its own time, Yield to the current of life unencumbered

Therapists are essentially story editors. People come to therapy because their stories are not working, often because they get causation wrong. They blame themselves for things that are not their fault, or they blame others for things that are.