how did you realise you were a bad person?

The social standard this culture offers is one of controlled, placated solitude. Its narrative often insists that you’re surrounded by toxic people who are trying to hurt you, and the only way to ever become the person you’re meant to be is to cut them all off, retreat into a high-gloss cocoon of talk therapy and Notion templates, and emerge a non-... See more

As agency has increased, and the world has become more meritocratic, many people reject it. It’s like someone is handing you power over your life and you say “no thanks!” Why? Because accepting power and agency means success or failure is your responsibility and your ego can’t handle it.

Most of us really have very little say in the diagnoses we get, even though we all carry a lot of self-knowledge about our bodies and minds. You see the impacts of this a lot when it comes to mental health and neurodivergence: people fighting for years for their autism or ADHD diagnosis, or trying to get an eating disorder diagnosis despite their g

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