Have a New Teenager by Friday: How to Establish Boundaries, Gain Respect & Turn Problem Behaviors Around in 5 Days

the standard strategies for coping with kids’ quarrels only led to more frustration and resentment between them.

1. Set limits calmly, firmly, gently, and early.

During the negotiating process, children learn they can count on their parents. They also learn important lessons in life: I win sometimes, you win sometimes, we both win sometimes. I can feel good about winning. I can learn to handle disappointment. I don’t always have to win. I can learn skills for cooperation.