Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction

The inner child, who has experienced frightening and confusing moments throughout your young life, sits in the background of your subconscious. And while he may produce a constant, low-level grumbling of anxiety in some of us, his real presence is felt when he becomes activated by core emotional triggers. See,

Our inner child doesn’t think about others’ feelings or the consequence of his actions.

However, for the inner child who was made to feel devalued, a sense of entitlement can develop as they hold on to past resentments and cynicism.

Imagine growing up and never or rarely hearing your parents or others say things like: “That was an awesome job.” “You’re an amazing kid.” “I think you’re special.” “You’re very smart.” “I enjoy spending time with you.” “I am so proud of you.” “You’re fun to be with.” “I love you.” That is the issue facing an inner child who is hungry for praise.

Comforting your inner child can be a challenge because he has two objectives: seek pleasure and avoid pain. And neither of those goals is something a man struggling with sex or pornography addiction should be aiming to accomplish.

A man possessing a low emotional IQ will find it difficult to process and express his own emotions, while also struggling to recognize and adequately manage the feelings of others.

when the Kid gets triggered (basically, he is having a tantrum) it leads to bad decision making for the sex addict if he is not mindful of what is occurring.

“It blocks out everything else in your life. In fact, it really serves as a cure-all. Any problem you have can be resolved for a short time by looking at pornography.”

There is only one goal our inner child has – to seek comfort.