Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples: Third Edition

As you work your way step by step through Imago Therapy, you will be creating a zone of safety between you—a sacred space we call the Space Between—that is essential for getting the love you want. You might liken this zone to a river that runs between you. You both drink from the river and bathe in it, so it’s important that it be free from garbage

You must move from self-care to caring for this Space Between.

Imago Dialogue introduces a radically new way of talking that makes all conversations safe. As you practice this essential exercise, you will create a safe environment in which you can begin to understand each other on a deeper level than ever before. The important thing to remember is that safety is the key. When you and your partner learn to crea

compete for the emotional resources in the relationship and to be the one that is “right.”

second step is a pledge to remove all negativity so that safety can become predictable.

the old brain has only a hazy awareness of the external world.

We believe that couples fight because they “object to difference.” And they put each other down emotionally, and sometimes physically, because they are unconsciously competitive.

competition for equality, and that becomes the problem.

we think we are alike in significant ways, and when that does not check out, we object to our partners, or the world, being different from how we see it.