One of the most undervalued acts of vulnerability is supporting each other’s success in this world.

Communicating commitment: Taking opportunities to affirm how much our friend means to us

accurately name your feelings and needs?

we follow through with an invitation after saying “we should get together sometime.”

No one seeks a friend who is always in crisis,

COLLABORATORS are friends with similar interests

Our goal then is to have a relationship where the positivity outweighs the negativity. That tipping point, according to John Gottman, is 5:1.

Knowing myself: “How easy is it for me to own what I’m feeling? How often do I practice telling others my real feelings? How often do I ask for what I need?” • New activities: “Do I generate ideas of things to do? Do I extend additional invitations even if others don’t initiate as often as I do?” • Expanding conversation: “How often do I ask though

with this default approach we can end up having our lives run by what’s right in front of us instead of what’s important to