To tolerate life , as Gaitskill implores us to do, you first have to actually live in it — get up in the morning, take out the trash, eat breakfast, go to work, get on the train, try not to look too deeply into the faces of the people sitting across from you, walk home, call your parents, pay your rent — and you must do all of this amid immeasurabl... See more

The concept “There is no pain” can simply be a way for seekers to avoid feeling the pain they feel in the moment! The concept “This is not my body” can be used to avoid facing uncomfortable thoughts and feelings they have about their body. The concept “There is no self” or “Everything is impersonal” can be used to deny intimate, and very personal,

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When stories break down, they can leave us in an empty space. We have withdrawn into our cocoons and find ourselves in a world in between worlds. Not fully in one or the other. Simultaneously leaving and arriving. We may lose our sense of meaning or feel disconnected from our work. We don’t want to continue with business as usual. The values we des... See more

She wrote on Hollywood and Washington, New York and Sacramento, Terri Schiavo and Martha Stewart, grief and hypocrisy and Latin American politics, and somehow it all drove toward the same point: Narratives are coping mechanisms. If we want to truly understand ourselves, we have to understand not just the stories we make up together, but the tales b... See more