F*ck Love: One Shrink's Sensible Advice for Finding a Lasting Relationship

A person may be overcompetent at getting A’s without developing a preference or calling, because when you’re good at everything, you don’t have to be passionate about anything to succeed.

Don’t let it distract you from getting to know people by their actions, not by their jokes, because as risky as it can be to be funny, humor’s sometimes used to avoid the greater risk of showing one’s true self.

When decent people with compatible values spend a life together and build something that is good and greater than themselves, they usually wind up loving one another deeply and enhancing each other’s sense of safety, contentment, and trust.