So I invite you to consider the idea that any current situations in your life, especially those situations that tend to recur over and over again in an annoying pattern (i.e., you can only seem to bring in a certain amount of money each month, you can only seem to attract the same kind of less-than-awesome partner, you feel repeatedly betrayed by f

It's impossible to desire something without also fearing it a bit, and it's impossible to fear and dislike something without also desiring it.

Grab your journal and write out “the rules” of your day-to-day feelings and behavior in no uncertain terms, as if you were programming an android to have the same hang-ups and neuroses as you.

immensely flexible capacity of the human organism to choose how it perceives sensation.

So I invite you to take a deep breath and drop your judgment of the constriction this part of you has created. For just a few moments, I invite you to fully identify with this kinky part of you. For just about three minutes, let go of thinking that you're the one who disapproves of this anxious pauper scene. Imagine that you're a kind of cosmic mas

And if you're curious as to what you unconsciously want, you don't need thirty years of psychoanalysis to figure it out: you can just take a look at what you currently have in your life and know that that's exactly what your unconscious wants, because what your unconscious wants, it gets. This is something we'll discuss more in a bit.

am totally, 100% committed to doubting my own value and worth.

Shame is the magic-killer

My deep dive into psychology taught me that we human beings have a major habit of taking unconscious pleasure in the “bad stuff” in our lives.