Dreams: Catherine Shainberg and more

As we begin to release these old feelings consciously (whenever we notice them arising), pieces of the past get healed.

The recognition of emotionality causes a big shift in the maturity of an individual and a couple.

Nobody wants to feel bad, so it seems quite natural to contract and pull away. But anytime we contract from direct experience and spin a story, we have gone unconscious. As soon as we go unconscious, whatever emotion that happened at that time will be locked into our system. It will stay there and regenerate itself over and over again until we find

In chapter 1, I introduced the scientific term representation to convey this notion of information. Our ability to “represent” an emotional reaction to ourselves, to give it a name and a meaning, helps to lift us out of the immediacy of an experience so that we can respond to it effectively.