The alternative is when the stuff starts to come up, the second you feel that change, relax. Don’t even wait until you know what it’s about; just relax and let go. You can work with samskaras at the energetic level rather than the mental level. This is much deeper.

What is tough is unlearning all of the “shoulds” and “oughts” that you’ve digested in the past.

let the thoughts that “only I could rescue us” come and I let them go. I decided to see what would happen without my input—even if it meant that everything would fall apart. Sometimes you just have to let everything fall apart. Stopping my actions was the first step and the hardest one. Not saving the day was going against the grain of how I operat

Now, see if there is anything about this issue that you’d like to change. Could you let go of wanting to change it? Find something else about the issue, or the way you feel about it, that you’d like to change. Could you let go of wanting to change it? Is there anything about the issue that seems stuck in any way? Do you want to change that sense of