I’d stopped reflexively texting him, and it had gotten more normal having him not know the ins and outs of my days. I had stopped feeling so vulnerable going through life without an emergency contact. Honestly, committing to being sober was a huge reason why the transition wasn’t so gut-wrenching. It made me feel like a superhero. What else was I c

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I don’t mind what happens. Perhaps these words need a little unpacking; I don’t think Krishnamurti means to say that we shouldn’t feel sorrow, compassion, or anger when bad things happen to ourselves or others, nor that we should give up on our efforts to prevent bad things from happening in the future. Rather, a life spent “not minding what happen... See more

Perhaps the best thing of all for me is to remember that my serenity is inversely proportional to my expectations. The higher my expectations of Max and other people are, the lower is my serenity. I can watch my serenity level rise when I discard my expectations. But then my “rights” try to move in, and they too can force my serenity level down. I

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Declare war on the negative bias: Focus on the things that go right instead of the things that go wrong — did the checkout line at the grocery store go quick? Did you avoid red lights on your way to work? If all you did was look for things to appreciate, you would live a spectacular life.

Everything is connected - “It takes thousands of people to ma... See more