Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After

I asked her once again, “Experience the same memory, but withhold your story, withhold the conclusions your mind has made. Don’t judge yourself for making them; just see if you can experience the story without them.” Once again, she closed her eyes and imagined what had happened, and then she opened her eyes, and I said, “Before you tell yourself a

Every relationship includes some hurt You may hold on to your indignation or to the pursuit of vengeance after being offended by someone. This maintains your grievance and prevents you from ever getting on with mutual commitment. Resentments that are worked through and dropped are the pathfinders to commitment. Resentments that are avenged, held on

Letting go is always a vulnerable time, and needs to be met with gentle self-acceptance. The feeling of emptiness is a necessary step. A new, deeper unity, based on our surrender to each new moment, comes slowly and cannot be forced, but it comes surely and can be trusted.

One ends a romantic relationship while remaining a compassionate friend by being kind above all else. By explaining one’s decision to leave the relationship with love and respect and emotional transparency. By being honest without being brutal. By expressing gratitude for what was given. By taking responsibility for mistakes and attempting to make