Come as You Are: the bestselling guide to the new science that will transform your sex life

•Without judgment, think about why you chose the food on your plate. What went into your decision-making process? Do you like your decisions? Did you forget something? Is there a food on your plate that you now don’t want to eat? Take time to get it right—remove what you don’t want and go back for anything you do. •Now, look over your plate and cho

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Try to stay away from value judgments like “It felt good” or “I liked it” or “I was miserable” or “I wished it would never end.” Instead, drill down and talk about one particular moment, one particular sensation. Speak the details of that single sensation in terms of temperature, pressure, vibration, and experiences of spaciousness or contraction.

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