Another study, titled “Tell Me What I Did Wrong,” showed that a shift takes place when people are on the path to expertise. Novices seek and need positive feedback because it keeps them working at something they’re not very good at. But there’s a tipping point. As someone becomes an expert they deliberately seek out negative feedback so they know h

One is that people seldom receive negative feedback about their skills and abilities from others in everyday life, because people don’t like to deliver the bad news.

The problem of failing to ask for feedback is not unique to therapists; it’s common among all kinds of people. Just think about the number of people you have personal or professional relationships with: friends, landscapers, dentists, mailmen, spouses, bosses. Now, how often do any one of them regularly ask you, “How am I doing?” in an authentic wa

That’s what feedback does; it helps us know when we are doing something correctly and when we aren’t.