Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life

Boundaries actually cure problems of irresponsibility, domination, and manipulation. When someone who is out of control encounters a person who cannot be controlled, he is then faced with the reality of his own consequences and frailties.

The best boundary against giving in to bad relationships, less-than-satisfactory relationships, or bad dynamics in a good relationship is your not needing that relationship. And that is going to come from being grounded in God, grounded in a support system, working out your issues, having a full life, and pursuing wholeness. If you are doing those

People who are selfish and controlling can only be that way if they are in relationship with someone who is adaptive. If someone stands up to them and is honest about his or her wants and desires, then the controlling person has to learn to share or gets frustrated and goes away.

Having your own bad, immature, and broken parts open to the scrutiny of that person Solving conflict in ways that do not involve leaving the relationship Staying in the relationship even if the other person changes for the worse Being called to sacrifice many individual preferences for the sake of the relationship