Bad Sex
Joyless is the operative word, one that links bimbos and tradwives in their pursuit of pleasure, no matter how much reality it requires you to ignore, or how much oppression, disrespect, and dehumanization it requires you to endure. Feminism becomes a scapegoat for capitalism’s ills, while marriage starts to look like a safe haven. But that romanti... See more
On Bimbos and Tradwives - Majuscule
The problem was never that women found sex too casual; it was that they found it too unkind. Courtesy, attentiveness, respect for refusal, an investment in someone else’s good time—these are what I hear women looking for in their sexual utopias, and none of them require a diamond ring. The problem expressed in much of Me Too was not that committed ... See more
Moira Donegan • Sex Positivity Was Fake, But We'll Miss It When It's Gone
In the era of the institutional marriage, from the nation’s founding until around 1850, the prevalence of individual farming households meant that the main requirements Americans had for their marriage revolved around things like food production, shelter and protection from violence.
In the era of the companionate marriage, from roughly 1850 until 1
... See moreEli J. Finkel • Opinion | The All-or-Nothing Marriage (Published 2014)
Marriage is one of the most unnatural decisions a human can make. It’s a continuous act of self-denial in our continuous search for self-fulfillment. For the rest of my life, I’m choosing to come second. Life no longer consists of just me. Every thought, every word, every action now prioritizes another person. Like I said. Unnatural. So unnatural, ... See more