But (don’t worry!) we won’t be dwelling here on my personal hang-ups. The universal truth behind my specific issues is that most of us invest a lot of energy, one way or another, in trying to avoid fully experiencing the reality in which we find ourselves. We don’t want to feel the anxiety that might arise if we were to ask ourselves whether we’re

1 Embrace Reality and Deal with It There is nothing more important than understanding how reality works and how to deal with it. The state of mind you bring to this process makes all the difference.

You have to get over the fear of facing the worst in yourself. You should instead fear unexamined racism.