However, most people aren’t thinking about us; they’re worried about themselves and what we think of them.

Expectations fall short of reality when: Someone says they hate a movie/book/song that you love. You put a ton of effort into something that ends up flopping. You learn that you’re the last person to find out about a shocking family secret. Some of your foundational beliefs are challenged in a way you aren’t prepared for. You get caught doing somet

People can be internally inconsistent. Sometimes it seems that someone values one thing, but they act another way instead. For those around them, this can be disorienting. When you see miscommunication or conflict arise, perhaps dig in to whether this may be the source.

TEST YOUR DEFINITION ON A FOREIGNER, SOMEONE BLIND, OR A CHILD, OR MAKE YOURSELF FOREIGN, BLIND, OR CHILDLIKE.