Are You a Settler?

I stopped needing to run from myself. But this process is hard and when people tell me they are scared of losing their edge, this is what they are really afraid of. They fear letting go of strategies, often enacted years ago, that help them feel safe, and that let them avoid facing what’s underneath. They are uncomfortable not having a plan and hav

If you go through life tending to your authentic voice and making it your job to learn and accept as much about yourself as you can, you generally wind up being one of those older people who are happy and wise, rather than an older person who is bitter and small-minded.

In the West, the sources of religion, family, clan, and even country could no longer tell you who you are. You decide. But once you decide, to truly have chosen, you can’t just sit on your hands, resting quietly in the glow of your chosen identity. That’s not how this “freedom” works. This “freedom” calls for constant motion. And this need for cons