Anxious People: The No. 1 New York Times bestseller, now a Netflix TV Series

When their marriage was still new, she never felt the need to lock it, and sometimes he would sit on the bathroom floor as she bathed and the two of them would talk about all the minutes and hours they’d spent apart. But after nearly twenty years together, it is as if their quota of words is almost gone and they have to ration them out, sparingly,

Failure is part of being human, and it is definitely part of being married. It’s part of what being alive means, occasionally screwing up in expensive ways. And that’s part of what marriage means: sometimes hating this other person but staying together because you promised you would. And then, days or weeks later, waking up and loving him again, lo

The good enough marriages were good enough for the kids, because kids don’t care if their parents are being self-actualized. They had stability and ready access to both parents, and they were happy. The fact that their parents were having an existential crisis didn’t matter to them.” In adulthood, though, these kids from good enough marriage famili

thousand small hints which make sense only to them are sprinkled throughout conversations. Sometimes you’re able to decipher what they want, but most of the time you only find out you missed a clue when they’re angry and snapping at you later for having “ignored” them.