1. By attending ACA meetings and working with my sponsor I am being restored to clarity and sanity. 2) I am understanding the effects of addiction and family dysfunction in my adult life today. 3) I am coming to believe that it was insane to think that I caused my parents’ addiction or dysfunction. I was the child. They were the parents. 4) I am not u

caused us to look for love and acceptance through people-pleasing, caretaking, and approval-seeking.

We were placed in the middle of adult dysfunction at a very young age. We learned it was our job to focus on others and make things better. We also learned that our needs and wants were not important. It became a habit we carried into adulthood that also kept us from looking at ourselves.