In the face of this emotion, what is the loss this person is grappling with? Putting it a couple of different ways may help, so here are a few nuances: Whoa, this dude is clearly upset. Look at him go off the deep end. What is he protecting? She’s freaking right out!!! It just keeps getting worse. I don’t know if I can handle this, I feel like givi

Typically, instead of exploring what information the other person might have that we don’t, we assume we know all we need to know to understand and explain things. Instead of working to manage our feelings constructively, we either try to hide them or let loose in ways that we later regret. Instead of exploring the identity issues that may be deepl

Feelings are often the first form in which we become aware that something is wrong with our life. We need thought in order to know what to do, but feelings often alert us to the existence of a problem. If our response to feelings that seem to challenge our ordinary routine is to ignore or repress them, then we condemn ourselves to living mechanical

Emotional knowledge, Roger Scruton argues, is knowing what to feel in certain situations—so that you can be properly disgusted by injustice, properly reverent before an act of self-sacrifice, properly sympathetic in friendship, and properly forbearing when wronged.