8 Rules of Love: The Sunday Times bestsellling guide on how to find lasting love and enjoy healthy relationships, from the author of Think Like A Monk

Who’s the most fascinating person you’ve ever met? What’s the most out-of-character thing you’ve ever done or would like to do? Have you ever had a big plot twist in your life? If you won the lottery, what would you spend the money on? What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done? What is a tough thing you dealt with in your past? What makes

people were less likely to develop creative skills like playing an instrument or writing because the most effective practice of these abilities is often done while alone. Like those talented teenagers, when we avoid solitude, we struggle to develop our skills.

Perhaps the most important lesson solitude offers is helping us understand our own imperfection. This prepares us to love someone else, in all their beauty and imperfection.

Every time one of you loses, you both lose. Every time the problem loses, you both win.

Do you have a dream you’d like to fulfill one day—a job, a trip, an accomplishment? What would you like to change about your life?

higher rates of well-being were associated more with people who had deep conversations than those who made more small talk.

Partners who avoid conflict don’t understand each other’s priorities, values, or struggles. Every couple fights—or should. Whatever you and your partner fight about, you’re probably not alone.

What would you do if you had enough money to not need a job?

very feelings prevent us from finding love. Researchers at the University of Toronto found through a series of studies that when we’re afraid of being single, we’re more likely to settle for less satisfying relationships.