8 Rules of Love: The Sunday Times bestsellling guide on how to find lasting love and enjoy healthy relationships, from the author of Think Like A Monk

But a great relationship needs more than transactions. It needs growth. Love is not just compliance or trade. Love is working through it together.

Every time one of you loses, you both lose. Every time the problem loses, you both win.

define the deepest love as when you like someone’s personality, respect their values, and help them toward their goals in a long-term, committed relationship.

This question reveals our insecurity, our fear, our anxiety around loneliness, and these

A committed romantic relationship highlights this awe and respect in a different way because there isn’t one guru and one student. You are both gurus and students for each other. We

Do you have a dream you’d like to fulfill one day—a job, a trip, an accomplishment? What would you like to change about your life?

higher rates of well-being were associated more with people who had deep conversations than those who made more small talk.

if you think your partner should do what you want when you want, I want to change how you look at your partner. That’s not a relationship, that’s ownership. Ownership is born of control. We definitely don’t want that dynamic with our partner. A good partnership is transactional.

very feelings prevent us from finding love. Researchers at the University of Toronto found through a series of studies that when we’re afraid of being single, we’re more likely to settle for less satisfying relationships.