Give up. Not completely. But mostly. Just stop trying so hard. Here’s my recipe: Make a list of all the things you love doing or things that intrigue you that you’d like to try doing. This is brainstorming, so don’t limit the list or judge it; write down everything you can think of. Separate the activities you do with people from the activities you

We do not overidentify with our jobs. We may take pride in our work, we may stay late and come in on weekends, but we recognize that we are not our job descriptions. The amateur, on the other hand, overidentifies with his avocation, his artistic aspiration. He defines himself by it. He is a musician, a painter, a playwright. Resistance loves this.