Sublime

In order to most fully inhabit the only life you ever get, you have to refrain from using every spare hour for personal growth. From this perspective, idleness isn’t merely forgivable; it’s practically an obligation.

We treat everything we’re doing – life itself, in other words – as valuable only insofar as it lays the groundwork for something else.

8. Be a “researcher” in relationships.

I left Montaigne and secured myself a copy of Seneca’s letters, and discovered an approach to life that I was moved to realise resonated with my own; it assembled my own disparate thoughts like so many loose light bulbs that needed stringing together. When others inspire us, they tend to do so through the clear expression of these sketchy, adumbrat

I remember sitting on a park bench near my home in Brooklyn one winter morning in 2014, feeling even more anxious than usual about the volume of undone tasks, and suddenly realizing that none of this was ever going to work. I would never succeed in marshaling enough efficiency, self-discipline, and effort to force my way through to the feeling that

10. Practice doing nothing.

Yet usually there’ll be no way to know, in the moment itself, that you’re doing it for the last time.