Sublime

The fixed mindset, plus stereotyping, plus women’s trust in other people’s assessments of them: All of these contribute to the gender gap in math and science.

The threat of failure scares you into these long hours. Yet success only intensifies the fear of discovery.”2 The other thing about hard work is that it can be quantified. We already know that you don’t credit yourself for less tangible measures of competence, such as talent or intelligence. But you can count how many hours you’re logging. And so c

Getting to know what triggers shame for you.

For some reason, I had always believed that downplaying the best parts of myself made me a better person.

Falko Rheinberg, a researcher in Germany, studied schoolteachers with different mindsets. Some of the teachers had the fixed mindset. They believed that students entering their class with different achievement levels were deeply and permanently different:

Judith Orloff is a California psychiatrist who has written fascinating accounts of her struggle to deal with the fact that she—like most of the other women in her family—is extremely psychic. Orloff recommends that would-be intuitives “train” by setting up trials in which they can repeatedly try to pick up information, then get immediate feedback o

Those of us that have been taught by Farah Griffin have felt cherished. Not precious. Not perfect. Not without growing to do. But necessary. And dreamt of. And held.