Sublime

As adults 144 we continue to control ourselves and our relationships in an unhealthy manner. This brings abandonment or predictable turmoil. We make promises to do better but eventually return to our obsessive need to compulsively arrange, question, worry, dust, wash, lock, unlock, read, or hypervigilantly survey our thoughts and actions to feel sa

Monica Whitty examined the traits that make victims vulnerable. She found that around two-thirds of victims are women. They tend to be middle-aged, to score high on impulsivity and sensation-seeking, to be less kind but at the same time more trusting, and to have an addictive personality (which is likely to make them more clingy).

Karlen’s research showed that dissociation is learned early: Later abuse or other traumas did not account for dissociative symptoms in young adults.40 Abuse and trauma accounted for many other problems, but not for chronic dissociation or aggression against self.