Sublime

Monica Whitty examined the traits that make victims vulnerable. She found that around two-thirds of victims are women. They tend to be middle-aged, to score high on impulsivity and sensation-seeking, to be less kind but at the same time more trusting, and to have an addictive personality (which is likely to make them more clingy).

Good boundaries run off the wackos, and attract people who are into responsibility and relationship. But when our boundaries are unclear or undeveloped, we run the risk of allowing people inside who shouldn’t be there.