Sublime

“What I make up” is a phrase I ask my clients to use. What I make up is that you’re being sarcastic. What I make up is that under your anger, there’s hurt. We are not clairvoyant, and neither are we the authoritative voice of objective reality. Keep it subjective; keep it humble. “This was my experience, right or wrong. This is how I recollect it.

the brilliant Principles-based psychiatrist William Pettit.

Mental illness pierces the veil, and those who suffer from it dwell with their fragility in plain view. My role as a psychiatrist is not to try to repair the veil but to strengthen my patients so that they can live, so that they can suffer less, so that they can hope.

As a coach, you must learn to quickly and accurately identify and understand your client’s level of emotional intelligence. You must learn how to detect and work with their emotions in the moment, and in the long-term, so you can lead them out of chaos and into stability. This will help them operate with a sense of self-belief and confidence that a

Therapists use three sources of information when working with patients: What the patients say, what they do, and how we feel while we’re sitting with them.

Our self-experience is the product of the balance between our rational and our emotional brains. When these two systems are in balance, we “feel like ourselves.” However, when our survival is at stake, these systems can function relatively independently.

The Self is the key to healing and integrating our disparate parts through its Compassion, Curiosity, Attunement, and other capacities. It is also the natural leader of our inner family, a guide through the adventures of life.

Being a therapist, she argues, is less about providing solutions and more “a way of paying attention, which is the purest form of love.”