Sublime

Men find meaning in one role — provider.

Baumeister’s group has repeatedly found that an effort of will or self-control is tiring; if you have had to force yourself to do something, you are less willing or less able to exert self-control when the next challenge comes around. The phenomenon has been named ego depletion.

Roy Baumeister, a world-renowned social psychologist, wrote similarly about the need to belong—about our fundamental and innate need to form interpersonal relationships, to maintain social bonds, to be part of a shared community.

Men seem to be less able to cope with this kind of taunting than women, perhaps because reputations mean more to them.

One’s reputation with others, and with themselves (self-esteem), is shaped primarily by their own individual attributes and accomplishments, not by nourishing an enduring web of inherited ties that are governed by a complex set of relationship-specific social norms.8

One is that each of us seems to have a natural social fingerprint in the way we allocate our social effort.

in men it was usually triggered by threats to status, whereas in young women it was more likely to be initiated by threats to their relationships with a boyfriend.