Sublime

In 2007, I launched four, four-week online Dating Essentials for Men courses. These courses were a compilation of what I had learned through trial and error and a lot of fucking practice. The courses became an instant success because they offered a breath of fresh air from programs that teach men to be cocky/funny, spin plates, or use canned pickup

Puts the Nice Guy in charge of his own sexual needs ■Removes dependency on unavailable partners or pornography

In reality, Dating Essentials for Men is about expanding your social and emotional intelligence – I just use men’s desire to get laid and find love as the motivation for helping them grow up and become interesting people.

If you know you can get out, you can date several women and risk getting all in with the women who look promising. And you can do so without the fear of being trapped and smothered.

Trying to be a good lover

Find people who are able and willing to help them meet their needs

The process of writing my online profile illuminated the reality that I didn’t have much of a life. It hit me that being a no-life Nice Guy wasn’t going to attract the kind of woman I wanted. In order to naturally attract amazing women to me, I had to create an amazing life.

Trying to appear needless and wantless ■Making

As I began exploring my own Nice Guy behaviors—caretaking, giving to get, fixing, keeping the peace, avoiding conflict, seeking approval, hiding mistakes—I started noticing numerous men with similar traits in my counseling practice.