Sublime

While we collect marbles, baseball cards, and antiques in order to hold on to them while they increase in value, the purpose of collecting contacts is to give them away—to match them with other contacts. Whenever you introduce people, instead of one plus one equaling two, it equals two to infinity—because when we make a successful connection, we ar

In people, oxytocin reaches far beyond family life. If you squirt oxytocin spray into a person’s nose, he or she will be more trusting in a game that involves transferring money temporarily to an anonymous partner.29 Conversely, people who behave trustingly cause oxytocin levels to increase in the partner they trusted. Oxytocin levels also rise whe

“If I wanted to predict your happiness, and I could know only one thing about you, I wouldn’t want to know your gender, religion, health, or income. I’d want to know about your social network—about your friends and family, and the strength of your bonds with them.”

true for all of us: Our network will equal our net worth.

Having the right oxytocin genes makes you more affiliative towards and trusting of your partner (an attitude that is probably enhanced by oestrogen in women), but endorphins give you long-term bonding stability and dopamine creates that sense of excitement provided by the relationship, especially a newly formed one.

Dopamine had its strongest effect at the network level (indexed by measures such as how many close friends you have, and how engaged you are with your local community),