Sublime

My ~ing led me to see how false my attack and judgment had been. For instance, all my anger toward him was based on what I’d projected internally and perceived externally. My mind projected thoughts like “All men leave,” “I’m not good enough,” and “He’s not giving me what I want.” I was projecting my fear onto him, thereby perceiving him as a total

Our experience of life is an exact reflection of who we are within. Wherever our lives are constricted and unfulfilling, we need to go deeper into our inner territory, to uncover where we have frozen our potential for a richer experience of life. Every time we expand our inner territory, our outer lives will expand. Our best spiritual teacher is al

So when she saw a man was interested in her, she would silently say in her heart toward him, “You may turn out to be a great guy, and maybe even my husband, but you cannot ever be my life. Only Christ is my life.” When she began to do this, like Leah, she got her life back. This spiritual discipline gave her the ability to set boundaries and make g

Once we understand that love is our true identity, we realize that the skill of learning to love is mostly an undoing of the ego obstructions that have gradually overlaid our natural tendency toward loving. This means letting go of our ego entitlements and inflations. We then look for all the practices that can help that happen, especially those th

I came to realize that he was doing the best he could to manage his own ego’s projections. I could now see how I’d forced my need to be saved onto a guy who didn’t want to save me. Rather than realize this, I’d made him wrong for not meeting my ego’s needs. This revelation offered me tremendous relief.

My real need, of course, was to realize that I didn’t need a man to fill what only felt like these insatiable emotional needs. The needs themselves were not real, but merely a reflection of the fact that I thought of myself as less than perfect. Salvation would only come through my relinquishing the thought that I wasn’t good enough. By defending m