Sublime

A simple question designed to elicit a story, such as “What did you do this morning?,” is a good way to begin to get to know a person without being threatening.

Note: Match people against their social velocity. Some people are extroverted, some introverted. The introverts do better with other introverts in your network. And less will mean more to them in terms of how many people you introduce them to. These people may feel overwhelmed if they have too many contacts; they have learned over the years how to

This is what Dan Siegel refers to as the window of tolerance. In this zone, your body can hold more energy—both yours and others—and it’s also where karmic change, sublime connection, and profound inspiration exist. For example, your capacity to withstand and hold a feminine storm of emotion—especially if directed at you—and then powerfully choose

In every crowd there are Diminishers and there are Illuminators. Diminishers make people feel small and unseen. They see other people as things to be used, not as persons to be befriended. They stereotype and ignore. They are so involved with themselves that other people are just not on their radar screen. Illuminators, on the other hand, have a pe

These are the people who want to make sure that everyone in the group is feeling included and happy. They are very attuned to the feeling states and needs of others and very generous in filling those needs. They are good at listening and are kind, supportive, and helpful.