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The All-or-Nothing Marriage — Eli J. Finkel
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In The All-or-Nothing Marriage, Eli Finkel, a professor of psychology at Northwestern University, traces the history of the institution over what he sees as three thematic eras: marriage for practical reasons, marriage for love, marriage for self-expression/fulfillment/meaning.
The All-or-Nothing Marriage — Eli J. Finkel
The problem today’s daters face is that the mass adoption of online dating apps has not only eroded incentives to switch from explore to exploit mode, it has made exploration itself boring and dysfunctional.
Shreeda Segan • Dangerous Dating Protocols Web
Well, the Marriage Pact, an annual matching ritual that has become popular on nearly 90 college campuses around the U.S., has turned that dusty cliche into fun.
And a few couples have found lasting love.
Nearly half a million students have participated since the pact first rolled out at Stanford University in 2017. Born of an economics projec... See more
Stephen Cave formalized “Freedom Quotient” as an additional dimension to evaluate human competencies beyond IQs (intelligent quotient) and EQ (emotional quotient). Cave defined FQ as a measure of natural free will, and he argues that smoothing out inequalities in FQ – and to raise the FQ of everyone – should be a goal of schools and of social polic
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Andrew Ettinger • 30 more things I believe
Jacob Falkovich says that single people often seek out similarity when complementarity is what makes relationships cohere long-term. It’s a great observation. But how to operationalize it? Maybe: look for someone you can’t initially understand, but also don’t feel like walking away from.
Sasha Chapin • Getting married soon
Myself and people my age have been trained under the illusion that we can effectively eliminate any and all friction from our lives. We can work from home, Amazon prime everything we need, swipe through a limitless array of mediocre dates, text our therapist, and have a person go to the grocery store for us when we don’t feel like it, all while con
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