Sublime

And she will act on them, thinking she is being herself, when in fact, she is being who the people around her want her to be. From an early age, she will become very skillful at pleasing others by being who they want her to be, but woefully inept at pleasing herself or even knowing herself.

Most of us long to see the light, and to live in the beauty of our highest self, but we try to do this without integrating all of ourselves.

observe your own judgments about other people. Whenever you are upset by another person's behavior, write down any opinions you have of the people who are closest to you.

Just notice the voices and feel the fears. That’s all you need to do with them. You don’t need to rid yourself of them. Where would they go, anyway? All you need to do is acknowledge them, wave to them, let them know you’re aware of them. Then get busy learning to live in your Zone of Genius.

you can’t just imagine or invent a person you wish you were. You actually need to find this person within yourself—and believe wholeheartedly that this part of you exists. The telepathic dialogue you will engage in with your target happens from subconscious to subconscious, and if you’re not attuned to your best self, their subconscious will pick u

The more you can clear yourself of other people’s programs, expectations, and pictures of you, the more powerful you will become.

The better you know your own quirks and foibles, the more you can work every day to manage them and focus on others. (See Chapter 10 “Know Yourself.”)

After we consider a new paradigm for understanding our inner and outer life—the holographic model of the universe—we can begin taking action, applying what we have learned to unconceal the hidden faces of our dark side.