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An angry child should sit by himself until he calms down. Then he should be allowed to return to normal life. That means the child wins—instead of his anger. The rule is “Come be with us as soon as you can behave properly.” This is a very good deal for child, parent and society. You’ll be able to tell if your child has really regained control. You’
... See moreJordan B. Peterson • 12 Rules for Life
Sometimes we parents help most by getting out of the way, while being available.
Kim John Payne M.Ed. • Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids
I worked further with Michelle and Clark to shift the balance of their communication with Carla from a vast majority of requests with a few instructions to mainly straightforward instructions with a few requests. When everything is a request, you have another form of verbal clutter:
Kim John Payne M.Ed. • Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids
Adele Faber • How to Talk so Kids Will Listen...And Listen So Kids Will Talk
The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read: (And Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did)
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Children test every bit of your resolve to be a good person. They push your buttons and are so staggeringly egocentric it can take your breath away. High points for selfish behavior are especially vivid in the six-year-old, the thirteen-year-old, and the college freshman. Sometimes it seems like they expect full support while simultaneously demandi
... See moreLindsay C. Gibson • Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence
Self-regulation
You’ll hear this a lot too, but most of parenting is about regulating your own emotions, versus the child’s. That means remaining calm, collected, and receptive to whatever emotional experience your baby is having. If the baby seems unhappy or falls over or makes a weird sound and you freak out, they will pick up on that energy and p
... See moreNurturing your child’s sense of his own separate power requires that you have a grounded, stable sense of your own power. You have to be able to tolerate his constant challenges without taking them personally, without collapsing, and without hitting back.
Steven Kessler • The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity
UN BREF RAPPEL… Aider les enfants aux prises avec leurs sentiments Les enfants ont besoin qu’on accueille et qu’on respecte leurs sentiments. ECOUTEZ EN SILENCE ET AVEC ATTENTION ACCUEILLEZ LEURS SENTIMENTS À L’AIDE D’UN MOT – Oh ! Hum ! Je vois. NOMMEZ LE SENTIMENT – Ça a l’air frustrant. UTILISEZ L’IMAGINAIRE POUR LEUR OFFRIR CE QU’ILS SOUHAITENT
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