Elayne Safir

Sometimes you are the problem.

We all have this delusion that we're very reasonable and easy to live with. If that were the case, no one would have issues with anyone. Call yourself out your own nonsense. Be quick to apologize. Be quick to forgive. It's hard, but just do it first. Most problems stem from a lack of communication, most people aren't

Design for relaxation: “what is one change I can make to my environment that promotes mental peace and reduces stress?”

There are always alternatives to consider. At a minimum, a good alternative is to do nothing. Many problems, if left alone, will be replaced by other ones, a making the original problem irrelevant. Without creative and compelling alternatives, there is no decision to make. The more effort we put into finding better alternatives, the better our deci