parenting

Can’t anticipate what life after kids will be like. Feels like the important thing is to not cling to the specific of your pre-kid life. You can’t expect certain habits or certain parts of your life to continue through exactly as it. Be open to the details, and just bring the same spirit, and the things that matter will find new form.

Instead of birthday candles, you should light and blow out 18” tall table candles. It prevents cake spit. But also, imagine giving somebody a numbered candle every year? Each birthday, you’d light your new candle, plus all your candles from years past. Past 10 years old, the idea of matching the number of candles to your actual age starts to become

Children model so much of their behavior from how parents act. Note to future self: instead of trying to discipline, lecture, or shape kids, focus on yourself (aka: don’t be a hypocrite). Example: they’re going to want to stay up as late as you.

Quote from After Babel:

“Another mistake is believing that our children are more advanced than others in terms of the strength of their character; unfortunately, our values are not passed through our genes. Despite our efforts to train our teens to “do the right thing” on their screens, teens are not gifted with the willpower needed for social medi

Each kid is so completely different, that the experience of parenting might not even be comparable. Some come out as hassle-free angels, and others are continuous storms. It’s almost like Russian Roulette, you have a 1 in 6 chance in either direction.