Healing
Healing from avoidant attachment is not just gaining the ability to be in relationship, it's gaining the ability to be in relationship with someone you see as your true equal (no bullshitting here) and whom you do not have significant, inherent power over.
Oh, and: healing from anxious attachment means learning to choose partners you see as your moral equal (i.e. just as much as you believe your intentions are good, pure and loving, you genuinely believe the same of the people you choose to date).
“Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible in us be found.”
―
Pema Chodron
―
Pema Chodron
A quote by Pema Chödrön
We could say the pain
was a block so great
it could not be moved.
We could say love
did not try to move it.
Love simply dissolved the mass
and surrounded it
the way water meets a block of salt,
breaking apart each ionic bond
until every atom of sodium and chloride
is surrounded by molecules of water.
And in this way,
and sooner than you’d think,
the pain was re... See more
was a block so great
it could not be moved.
We could say love
did not try to move it.
Love simply dissolved the mass
and surrounded it
the way water meets a block of salt,
breaking apart each ionic bond
until every atom of sodium and chloride
is surrounded by molecules of water.
And in this way,
and sooner than you’d think,
the pain was re... See more
Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer • Love, Like Water
The time will come
when, with elation
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror
and each will smile at the other's welcome,
and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you
all your life, whom you ignored
fo... See more
when, with elation
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror
and each will smile at the other's welcome,
and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you
all your life, whom you ignored
fo... See more
Love After Love by Derek Walcott - All Poetry
Christ has no body now on earth but yours,
no hands but yours,
no feet but yours,
Yours are the eyes through which to look out
Christ’s compassion to the world
Yours are the feet with which he is to go about
doing good;
Yours are the hands with which he is to bless men now.”
St. Teresa of Avila
Tammi McCarthy • Following the Breadcrumbs of St. Teresa of Avila - Little With Great Love
Encountered this late-in-life prose poem by Czeslaw Milosz while kicking around different epigraphs for my book; now hearing a voice say "you can stop worrying ... you did what was assigned to you" at age 90 is officially a life goal: https://t.co/jby9VlDiuy
Eloheh Principles:
Harmony – seeking peace and balance
Respect – honoring the sacred
Accountability – remembering that we’re all related
Our History – looking forward by looking back
Humor – laughing at ourselves
Authenticity – speaking from our hearts (vulnerability)
Equality – learning from everyone
In community – increasing our friendships and relations