you don’t build self trust by monitoring yourself constantly to see if you’re trustworthy
People who trust themselves trust themselves because they’re honest with themselves. More specifically, they’re honest about what they need to restrict themselves from or altogether avoid. We think that the more we trust ourselves, the fewer boundaries we’ll need; the opposite is true. The people who trust themselves the most are the ones who honor
... See moreKatherine Morgan Schafler • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
Once people do not trust themselves, they are subject to easy manipulation.
Joel Kramer • The Guru Papers
Self-trust is the most basic and most often neglected form of trust. Distrust is often a projection of missing self-trust.
Robert C. Solomon, Fernando Flores • Building Trust
When you don’t trust yourself, you’re waiting to catch yourself in a mistake so you can pounce on your own certainty about how unworthy of trust you are. You get petty. You become fixated on your mistakes, and you keep a tally of those mistakes. In contrast, when you notice you’ve been numbing out all week beyond a level you’re comfortable with and
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